Saturday, July 14, 2012

It's my blog and I can say what I want to...

Hoping I can explain well and get out what I want to say. I'll start at the beginning. Please read to the end. My grandparents own a cottage on a lake and they pay for everything as far as up keep etc. It has 3 bedrooms. One is my grandparents, one was considered to be my parents room but has been used by every family member, and the 3rd is considered to be my mom's sisters room and has also been used by every family member. Josh and I wanted to bring the girls camping for the weekend until Monday because Josh has Monday off. We decided we wanted to stay at the cottage Fri night and Sat night and then go to Jellystone Campground in Silver Lake Sun to Mon. Well we got up north late so rather than putting up our camper we slept inside. At first we were going to sleep in my mom's room because my parents were going to sleep in the other but we decided to switch. So after breakfast my cousin puts a status on Facebook and says... My grandparents have a cottage and everytime my parents are not there the rest of the family uses my parents room. (Something like that) and then Effing ridiculous. While my side of the family never says anything this time I felt the need to because it just really put me over the edge. We always share everything. They don't. period. So the "argument" began because my aunt thinks that since she bought the bed that no one else should sleep in it. She commented..."we paid for the bed so I didn't realize it was community property" That makes me feel like I'm a stranger and not her niece. We didn't even sleep under the covers. My point in replying was just that how silly is it to get upset about who sleeps where when if it were our side we would let anyone use it. So both my aunt and cousin deleted me on Facebook. Since then I've heard they are going to either go take the bed down or my grandma was going to pay her for the bed so that it didn't matter who slept on it. I hope you're thinking Seriously ? So we ended up leaving the cottage today and I cried. I just feel this whole thing could have been avoided if they could have just asked nicely for us to not sleep in the bed instead of putting the status on Facebook. With them its always about mine mine mine and ours is better than yours and they only seem to care about themselves This has been on my mind the entire day. I don't like family arguments, I don't like when people delete me on Facebook especially family. I am an extremely caring person and hate anything like this. I love my entire family and would never act that way to them. We had to explain to the girls today why I was upset so they got a great lesson on sharing today. They both asked...why don't like they to share their stuff. All we could say is we don't know but It's nice to share so we will. I have no clue what the future brings. At this point I feel like I'm never going to see them again and really that makes me sad. Something so petty as sleeping in a bed??? I pray the whole thing gets resolved. I guess I'm waiting for them to make the 1st move. Bring a Christian I just want to do the right thing but at this point I don't feel It's up to me to apologize 1st? I don't know. Much love to my entire family I hope we can forget this and move on...

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

I'm sorry you had to deal with something like this within your family, but I have to disagree with you waiting for them to make the 1st move, because it probably won't happen and the bitterness can go on a long time. If you would just let them know you are sorry for the misunderstanding and that you thought the bed was available to others, I think that would go a long way in healing. As a Christian, I think we need to do our best to make things right, even when we really aren't at fault. I just keep wondering what would Jesus do?? Hope the rest of your weekend is fantastic!